In the last 5 days, I have been reunited (via email) with about 20+ fraternity brothers.
These are guys (the vast majority) that I have not spoken with or had contact with in nearly 15 years.
We were connected because one of our brothers has a son, who has been diagnosed with a rare childhood disease called, ADEM - see his website link HERE -- we are trying to support him, by putting together a fund to help offset some of the cost associated.
I am really hoping that my fraternity brothers will band together in the same fashion, to contribute to Mike's son's Fund -- JUSTIN, to help defray some costs associated with his terrible illness.
I am confident they will. As a parent, there is NO GREATER fear - than having one of your children ill. It is the worst feeling in the world.
We had a fraternity brother named Lenny Massa. He was killed at our college on Sept 29, 1989 - in a shooting at a party we had thrown, when a local from the town, got drunk, and brought a gun into one of our gatherings. (he was on parole, and had just been released from a multi year sentence, for I believe, assault with a deadly weapon, and he was out early).......He murdered Lenny.
All these years later, I cannot help but think what he would be doing now.
This guy (Lenny) had so much passion and energy for LIFE. He played bass in a band called "Social Convention." He came to DEAD shows with us, and drove from CT to Greensboro NC for one show -- and drove straight back after the show. (we all stayed for 3 nights) -- but he came for one, and then at 11:30pm got in his soft top blue Jeep, and drove back to Connecticut.
He was unique.
He was special.
I have no doubt that he would be on this list, and he would have been WILDLY successful at anything he would have set out to do.
Because he had passion.
He could convince you of nearly anything. And, with his bravado, be SO CONFIDENT - that you just had to be trusting of his judgement.
He had a huge impact on me in a variety of ways, but none more so than the following:
He was a ARCHITECT (see my definiton) he defined being HIS OWN LEADER, and consistently marching to the beat of his own drummer.
Lenny inspired me in many ways. Some unspoken, and unrealized -- until I was old enough to know--the VERY characteristics that made me love him in the first place, and FORCED me to respect him.
Lenny was himself. Everyday. There was not ONE OUNCE of phoniness in him.
I raise my glass to Leonard Massa.
Thanks Lenny for being a great role model, you touched many of us -- and I;m adding you to our ongoing dialogue.
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